O.k., Rich - my final!
democracy built before 1900Y as
In a democracy, people may go into business for themselves. If they prosper, they enjoy the rewards that go with success. If they fail, they may try again or change their work. The decisions, the risks, and the rewards are their own.`
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Ok, back to the topic at hand....
Marcy, First off, I`m no shipping expert. LOL! How funny that I have to preface my comment with that! Maybe I`ll start every post with that phrase. It`s a new figure of speech that.
It`s no failure to offer local shipping only. It works for Craig`s list people all the time. But I think that you will find some people will still be willing to foot the cost to have items shipped using a third party regardless of cost. Just be honest and tell them that it will cost them an arm and a leg. If they really want it, you can ship it. Just tell them to send their arm and leg in a refrigerated box and you`ll gladly ship their item. Sure. Most people are fond of their limbs but at least you won`t be ruling out the few that have limbs to spare and don`t really care what it costs if they can`t get it otherwise. When you finally reach discount volumes you will be able to cut the cost and more easily reach people so that they can pay with money instead of body parts.
But remember. I`m not an expert. 
Marcy~ I believe shipping your item to yourself will answer all your questions. Have a packing service package your assembled furniture with a more contoured technique. I suggest hard styro corners under corrigated cardboard and corrigated cardboard wrapped legs or sides. This is custom work and time consuming but if handlers can tell what the item is, they may treat it gentler. Try DHL..... they do a great job on my larger items.
Nice discussion on this shipping question and if you want any shipping services, YFSIndia is there for best services.