I just wanted to pop back in and let everyone know how much I appreciate the healthy discussion on this topic. I agreeI believe women who exhuberate self-confidence also display a natural sex appeal with flaunting. Those women who have to work at being "sexy" probably don`t have much else going for them.
I believe someone said, "use what you have to get what you want" Well, if you use your natural appeal--you can get the world! I think as we age we do understand that fact.
Which sounds better?
“I’m a 51-year-old media consultant” or “I’m a media consultant with more than 25 years of experience in the business.”
What does being a 51-year-old media consultant mean? I could be a novice in the field who knows less than a 30-something professional. Banking on your age alone in the business world may be more of a deterrent these days than you think. Don’t get me wrong, age does have its advantages but in the business world, it’s more about what you know.
Therefore, as an older professional business man or woman you’ve got to SELL YOUR EXPERIENCE!
You Know People:
You have worked long enough and SMART enough to have developed business contacts of tremendous value. No 25-year-old executive will ever match the number and depth of contacts a veteran business woman or man brings to the table.
You Bring Wisdom and Sage Leadership:
After more than 25 years in the workforce, you’ve taken your knocks, you’ve learned the hard lessons, and you’ve demonstrated your ability to lead, achieve and succeed.
You Represent Credibility:
You give your company instant credibility, simply by your level of maturity. The fact that you have learned how to wheel and deal over the years with some of the best men and women makes you a force to be reckoned with.
You have real-life experience:
Today, employers want workers who can hit the ground running and older workers have more real-world experience with less drama. Also, customers want to deal with business owners who know how to treat them as a person and not as a “sale.”
Your Network is Bigger:
All those years of Chamber of Commerce Meetings, along with other business, church and social networking clubs haven’t been for nothing. These are invaluable contacts that not only help you generate sales but also help you expand your networking base even wider.
Abigail Van Buren, the Dear Abby columnist, was once quoted as saying:
If we could sell our experiences for what they cost us we’d be millionaires
.” So what kind of deposit are you prepared to make?
This topic actually came up in my Women`s Business Group--Boomer Diva Nation. One of the members said she filled in as a temp on a job and was told by a manager that she was much she dressed older than she looked. She asked how old he thought she was and he said almost 15 years younger. So that generated a discussion about sex appeal and what is or is not appropriate.
I do believe in "good grooming" for men and women. I am more inclined to do business with a man who looks like he is well kept than with someone who looks and acts like he just came off of the farm (so to speak).
Men, unfortunately, are not held to the same standards when it comes to appearance at midlife---at least not by other men.
"...one should still always be conscious of their appearance to ensure they aren`t discriminated against based on lack of "attractive qualities".
What does that mean? Do we still live in a society where our lack of attractive qualities would keep us from getting a job?
I think the television news business may be a little different than other businesses where EEO isn`t such a factor. Why, because being attractive to the eye is what News Directors are looking for and if you turn on the extra charm--you`re in. Sad--but true. Almost similar to being an actress in Hollywood.
"Sex and glitter attract the eye, but the underlying backup of content, product, service, and follow-through make the sale."
One of my former colleagues (who became a successful anchorwoman in Boston) once told me, "What you look like and who you know gets you in the door--but what you know keeps you there."