You guys know a lot about a lot of stuff...so I thought I would throw my delimna out there and see if anyone can give me advice or just general feelings on a subject that I am just freaking out about and can`t exactly put my finger on why. Sorry if this gets long...
Here`s the deal:
I have been working with/for an elderly lady since January of 06 as sort of a personal assistant. Her son (whom she lives with) hired me to be her driver - taking to grocery store, shopping, card games and to drop-off and pick-up his laundry/prescriptions, to fill out forms for her in doctor`s offices and read mail to her, etc. (she has macular degeneration). Over time, I have done other things that were not part of the original deal but haven`t said anything, I guess because they pay me pretty well and it is very flexible. Mostly it has been other things that he needed and instead of asking me, he gives his 88 year old mother instructions that she doesn`t understand and then gives them to me and I am left to "figure out" what it is that he wants. In my opinion, he puts a lot of responsibility on her that she is not capable of handling...not because there is anything wrong with her, just that it isn`t 1929 anymore!
So, in the last 8-9 months or so, her son has found a girlfriend in Russia who he will be bringing back this Sunday. I have tried to stay completely unaware of what is actually going on there...just don`t want any part of it, but now it seems as though they are going to want me to "help" her too. I am not happy about this at all. The son has not talked to me about it or asked me to do anything. The old lady asked me at one time if I might be willing to and I told her I would need to discuss with her son. Today I was talking about volunteering at school and she just kept saying that I couldn`t get another job because she needed me too much and so did "the girl" (for lack of a better term at the moment). I got a little mad and told her that I didn`t think so. I said I thought her son should talk to me about if he wants my help.
OK - honestly, I grew tired of the job a long time ago and come up with all sorts of reasons that I can`t come over this day or that. I do not care for the "reasons" he gives for going to Russia to find a wife - ladies, you wouldn`t either! I don`t appreciate anyone assuming that I will do anything without asking me first. I`m not a caretaker.
What would you do? I already have an excuse for not being there Monday - school starts. Maybe it sounds ridiculous to y`all, but I am having such a hard time trying to decide what I should do - it`s making me crazy - and really, really mad! Please help!
Thanks for letting me vent.