And how often do you or those around you nod wisely, agree, and shrug it all off? Do you realize how destructive those tiny little agreements can be to the overall creative process?
If we`re going to take things one step at a time, then anything that brings to a halt even one step is sufficient to close down the entire journey. To "limp" along, with each step getting more painful is only to prolong the inevitable failure, quitting, and end of the journey.
Consider two people: One is waiting with bated breath, biting fingernails, hoping for word that a $300-million piece of property will come through on their bid. The other is doing the same, pacing the room, waiting to hear if a $20 handmade baby blanket will sell the first time on their Web site.
How much adrenaline can a human being have? How much relief, joy, excitement, panic, fear? When the two people hear that yes, the sale went through, does the first person experience 15-million times as much joy and excitement? LOL! Of course not!!
Now consider a person who`s invested their life savings into starting a Gidget company. They`ve worked hard, done it all, followed advice, been brilliant, and had the business open for a year. Circumstances come along, and by the end of the year, they go out of business. People just weren`t interested in the Gidgets, despite the best efforts on the part of everyone involved.
Next to this person who just went broke, place a 3 yearold little girl who`s come home from the beach, only to discover that her favorite doll is among the missing. She knows she had it at the beach, but it`s been left behind. Does that little girl feel only some meaningless sense of loss, when compared to the Much More Important bankruptcy of the Giget company owner? Of course not!
To use relative measures on human emotions isn`t only ridiculous, it`s downright destructive! No amount of money or longevity can ever override the individual`s experience of WHY things are happening. It doesn`t matter at all how much money is at stake, how old someone is, how "important" is their business or experience in terms of the rest of the world. It only matters directly to the individual!
How many of us grew up in families where any time we had a personal victory, others reduced its importance because it wasn`t "important" on a relative basis? And how many of us have taken the time to contemplate what exactly is going on with "relative value judgements?"