same thing has happened to me but in my case I have tried a business
before and failed, part of mine is the fear of failure. I still carry
debt from the previous business, so financing is not an option for me
at this point. I tried getting into a recruitment business, I left
because I was scared and now another idea has come, actually 2 ideas
publishing and brides. Any suggestion?
First of all, let me again be very clear that I`m not a psychologist,
therapist, or life coach. I`m a philosopher and writer, with an
interest in logic, semantics, definition, and emotional logic. I do
what any other good writer does, which is to examine the plot. It
happens that the "plot" is life, but as we`ve heard before, life
This discussion is about serial business starters, not so much the fear
of failure. We`ve had a massive discussion on the meaning of failure,
along with many discussions on passion. The problem here---the plot, if
you will---is how to resolve a story wherein the main character(s)
continually start something and don`t finish it.
My personal opinion is that one shouldn`t start a story without first
knowing how it`s going to end. That`s just my own thought regarding
novel writing. But let`s carry that over, for the sake of argument,
into real life.
How many people start a business without knowing how it`ll end? One of the most important of the Sloan brothers` 10 Steps to Open for Business
is to create a Life Plan.
A life plan might also be called an exit strategy, with a small stretch
of the imagination. The point is that you don`t start a business
because you`re bored! You start a business for a purpose. If you don`t
know that purpose ahead of time, then you`re likely just floundering
around, hoping to convert your job from one to another type of "boss."
Your purpose in life may change, as you grow older. If you still have
the same business, then the underlying meaning and reward of that
business likely will change to reflect your new purpose in life. That`s
fine; not a problem.
Philosophcially, the two undisclosed questions most often hidden away in the cellar, these days, are: "How?" and "Why?"
Let`s say you`re fast asleep, then shoot up out of bed with a most
brilliant idea for a new business. In a flash, you see the entire thing
laid out, from jotting down the idea to becoming an international
enterprise. You instantly are fired up, ready to go, and so you begin a
whirlwind of activity, all designed to get this business going.
What`s the point of this business in terms of your life? Suppose you
have $80-million when it`s sold and run by others; what did you want to
do with that money?
People are sort of feeling that "passion = business plan." How? A
business plan is a step-by-step analysis of each action and rationale
used to build a business through many different phases. How does
"passion" answer the question, "In what way will I create an accounting
system?" "How many square feet will be necessary in order to sell
clothing in a retail store?"
Pick up the book of your life at the local library. It`s called, "The
Business of My Idea," or words to that effect. What`s the introduction?
What engages the reader at the start, presenting a problem that needs
to be resolved? What`s the platform of drama---where conflict and
values are so high they threaten someone`s life?"
As you`re reading, you see chapter after chapter where the main
character has an idea, jumps to it, starts a business, then quits. How
many chapters would you read before you throw the book across the room
and start yelling at the character to get it together? :-)
Most importantly, as the author, how do you intend for this book to
end? "And then they made $1-billion and lived happily ever after." Is
Think of the fairy tales you read as a child, or had someone reading to
you. They all ended, "....and then they lived happily ever after." What
does that mean? How long is "ever after?" What happened to Cinderella
when she turned 60, retired, and became a senior citizen?
Real life isn`t a fairy tale. Other than suicides, most people never
reach a point where they fill in the blanks with "and then they lived
happily ever after." They live and enjoy, live and enjoy, live and
enjoy, then BLAM!....they`re dead. There isn`t any "ever after." (We`re
not discussing metaphysical spirituality and the after life.)
Everyone has ideas! Not everyone puts those ideas into action. But
simply putting an idea into action, in and of itself, is pretty
pointless, don`t you think? WHY put that idea into play? "Just because
you CAN do something, SHOULD you do it?"
People have fears, worries, anxieties. They`ve had bad experiences.
Fine....people have been doing that since the Neanderthal days. The
issue isn`t that you have fears; the issue is what are you going to do
tomorrow? What are you going to do with those fears; let them control
the rest of your life? Or are you going to learn from the experience,
grow your character, then try something differently?