Forums: Discussions for entrepreneurs and small business.

I was perusing the SUN forums searching many different topics. If this has been asked before (I couldn`t find this subject), my apologies for being redundant. 

I noticed that when two individuals start arguing a point, once it turns mean no one else seems to want to post additional comments on the actual topic.  This particular topic forum had about 12 or 14 barbs back and forth and then no other replies.  I wanted to chime in on the subject but I was hesitant.  

I understand personality conflicts.  Just wondering.... Is anyone else hesitant to comment or reply on the topics after a forum Fight? 

I agree with Vince and Engraver.
I try to avoid these discussions.
First, it`s hard to post constructive comments when I`m not sure I`m getting all the facts. Multiple anonymous postings, personal accusations, etc. muddies the water.
Second, this isn`t a court. As Engraver said, use personal messaging or take it to small claims court.

MiteyMike,

The "key" words in your original post were "once it turns mean " - nothing wrong with an argument - just two different opinions ... but once it turns mean - well, like they say here in the south, "I don`t have a dog in that fight", so bye-bye!

R@

MM,

Don`t feel that you can`t comment on the subject that started the thread. Sometimes there needs to be something to separate the two just as you would in a bar fight. Just preface your comment with "getting back to the subject:" and you`ll be on your way.

Arguments do happen and you can`t keep them from occuring. One of my most significant mottos to live by is: "Don`t let your happiness depend on the actions of others."

So pull up a chair, make your post, and if you really want some dialouge on a subject, start your own topic. Remember that much of the subject matter here is about building and running a business which is terribly tough and takes a lot of fortitude. As a result, there aren`t too many timid people here.

~Eric

I`m one who is not afraid to step over the carnage and carry on.  I don`t get into the fight, but if the topic was relevant and still merits discussion, there`s no harm in just moving forward and ignoring what happened. 

There are some people who are always looking for a fight, though.  We often say things via email or messages that we would NEVER dare speak to someone`s face.  That`s one of the challenges of a forum. 

The general attitude of the group can fuel these things, though.  I have seen some forums where EVERYONE is angry and looking for a fight or wants to take offense over everything.  But, when the general attitude of a group is upbeat and mature (like here, usually), others will follow suit.

~Kim

I personally appreciate it when there is someone who adds relevant comments to the orignal post and brings the discussion back to focus. 

There seems to be this problem with arguments and ramblers.  I think the same decrease in participation happens when someone railroads the thread by changing the subject.