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RSchlieper

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Oct 25, 2006 7:01 PM ET    Quote  Report Abuse
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My fear is closer to the "doing something radical but rational".  I do have some financial support, fortunately.  However, I am accustomed to being self-sufficient and getting my own paycheck so this is a very uncomfortable period for me. To ease my discomfort, I have thought of returning to my old job.

One of the most tricky little suckers to define is that word Comfort! I went through a number of years with a bad definition, having thought I`d arrived at the right one. (Dictionaries aren`t any help at all with words like this.)

Comfort is a zero point on a scale of both positive and negative "numbers." These metaphorical numbers are values we assign, for the most part almost unconsciously, to experience. To clarify, I`ll use a money metaphor.

If you spend money and owe people future money, you`re in the negative numbers. You`re in debt. Then you get money and start paying debt. At some point you`ve paid off all your debt. At that point, no, you don`t have money! You`re broke! You have zero money, BUT you also have zero debt.

If you continue to gain money, you can spend at the same rate as you earn, holding to a zero balance, but having all your bills paid and your daily needs met. However, you can earn more than you spend, choose not to waste it, then put some of the extra into a savings account. Only then do you have money. ("Have" in the sense that it`s not going out the door in the next day or so.)

To break apart the metaphor, "debt" is on the way to death, moving down through irritation, annoyance, nervousness, stress, anxiety, worry, fear, panic, numbness, depression, and suicide. It`s a pain function, not a pleasure function.

`Savings" is at the positive polarity of the scale, moving toward joy. Happiness is a transient event, as you reach milestones and goals. So if you`re in massive debt, then pay off your debt, you can be happy, but that`s not the same "kind" of happiness as a windfall profit from an investment. Joy is static, and momentary, but speaks to experiencing the ideal. So there`s living, then there`s the Joy of life.

In the middle, right at the zero point we have Comfort. It`s very closely related to Apathy. Comfort is where you`re not experiencing any pain or painful life events, but neither are you experiencing any pleasure events. It`s a cessation of pain, before the introduction of pleasure. (Apathy is where you don`t care whether you`re experiencing pain or pleasure.)

A recent experiment with rats, I can`t remember the source but could look it up, demonstrated that when rats had a comfortable life, they died earlier than those that had stresses and incentives in life. The logical conclusion, borne out by history, is that being too comfortable leads to being fat and lazy, bored and "content" but not happy.

If you`re in a discomfort or uncomfortable situation, it`s only that you`ve gotten tired of sitting at the zero point. The remaining and more important question is what you consider to be the "purpose of life."
CraigL2006-10-26 4:18:5


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Garfield

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Oct 28, 2006 8:27 AM ET    Quote  Report Abuse
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Those were some interesting points you raised!  The rat story is really telling.  Yes, comfort does seem hard to define.  You are right.  When I was "comfortable," something was still very missing.  I felt unfulfilled so I guess that told me that I had not yet found my purpose.  Now, I am seeking just that.
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My recommendation would be to keep working at whatever will pay the bills for now. Get the worries out of your head. I would highly recommend taking a trip somewhere - overseas, anywhere. You will be away from everything and have time to reflect. You may even get some inspiration there! Then when you get home, keep working your regular job, while you plan for your business.  As soon as you have everything lined up, GO FOR IT!  That`s my two cents! There are two books you should read too, to give you inspiration. "How I Did It" and "My Big Idea". If those books don`t give you a kick in the you know what, I don`t know what will.  Good Luck!!!
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Steve

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Oct 29, 2006 6:48 PM ET    Quote  Report Abuse
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GetLocal, I just went to your website and it`s displaying the message:

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Thought you`d want to know.


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hi there..

i envy the fact tt u could just quit ur job and start on ur own business.

as for me..trying hard to come up with enuff $$  so tt i can quit my job and pay back the company for my study loan.

in the meantime..trying my best to earn some additional income .

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RSchlieper

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Getlocal - I`ll check out those books.  Thanks for the suggestion!
CraigL

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I think one of the biggest problems all of us face, enterpreneur or anyone else, is that problem of wanting all our ducks in a row before starting something radical. I know I`m guilty of it, and I understand why.

The stress of worrying about the mortgage or rent, having food, paying the electric bill---none of it`s conducive to also having the mental agility to figure out how to go from nothing to selling product in a new business. Ron`s mentioned his way to make cash while doing other things, and in terms of bootstrapping, that`s definitely an option to consider

But more importantly: At what point does anxiety over covering bills prevent you from living your life, or changing to a better life? There`s a balance between focusing attention on that worry, versus trying to "dig your way out of the rut" with a new concept. This isn`t comfort; it`s not the idea that until you have a comfortable investment savings you can`t get started.

This is about the concept of multitasking. In a worst-case situation, even if you "schedule" time to worry about the bills, wallow in that worry until the end of the scheduled time, then stop, it`s better. Another option is to contemplat what you can do in the next 20 minutes to solve a worry. If nothing, then stop thinking about it.

Pressure is a great incentive, and for some people, quitting a job with no backup is an excellent way to get the engine moving. It`s like that old saying, "Leap, and the net shall appear." But not everyone can do it. They have different risk-aversion levels, different body chemisty, and different tolerances for fear.

Even so, there are countless people who say, "Someday I`m gonna..." and then explain why they can`t right now because they don`t have a savings, they don`t have a plan, they don`t have this, or that, or some other thing.

Another great platitude that actually means something has to do with looking back over your life with regret. As difficult as it is to imagine, all of us will get old, slow down, and reach a point where this life is coming to an end. It`ll wind down, and we`ll look back at what we did. Would you like to be famous for having showed up for work on time? Will you look back at a life of having paid all the bills on time?

There`s nothing more painful than to remember what might have been. (I can`t remember the philosopher who said that, offhand, but the phrase stuck in my mind.)


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Nuevolution

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CraigL,
I hear what you are saying. Yes most people want to make sure they have their ducks in a row before they decide to leave their financial security. But trust me as long as you  have that nice check coming in every week or every two weeks, you will never have the courage to go on your own. Why? because you are afraid of having to worry about the mortgage, car payment, and food on your table.

And... "TRUE", alot of people use the sentence someday Im gonna.... The time is now. You know what the real defenition of entreprenuer is? as described by the SBA. It`s a person that takes unmeasurable risks (adrenaline Junkies)..

From my own experience, I think if I had a secure paycheck, I wouldn`t push the business to succeed as much as I do. I find myself working more than 14 hours a day, and that`s fine... the business is growing.... and Im expanding very quickly... Why? because I took the risk, I gambled with my financial security, and to be honest. I am loving it...

As I recall I was never an early bird... I hated going to work... at one job I was written up for being there at 7:00:36 a.m. "Thats when the light clicked" and I told myself? 36 milliseconds? Two weeks later, because of that I voluteered for the lay offs, and when they asked me why? I told them, I have better plans in life, and being written up for 36 milliseconds, wasn`t what I had in mind or wanted to go through. ( I took it personal) but I was fed up working for the government ( I used to work on military airplanes like the B-2 and Apache Helicopters)..

My advise to all of you out there.... Go for yours... The only thing that`s going to drive you to succeed is an empty stomach... Don`t hold back... The suffering is only temporary...



Nuevolution2006-10-31 3:54:21


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