I have successfully sold websites for 5 years. To answer your questions kenmc90:
"is this really how sales work? this slow?"
The answer is YES that is how sales really works.
"I`v done a few local door-to-door tries. and a few phone book calls."
So have I. I bet no one bought from you.
Even as a young person with no background in sales who is beginning his website design business you should be able to have sold a couple of websites from those calls and door-to-door visits. I would know I would have been able to sell at least a couple for you in your current situation if you had your own website finished.
However, you are too high of a risk. You come across as lazy, irresponsible and unskilled when you do not have your own website fully designed and functioning. Why would anyone spend money investing in you as a person, which is exactly what you are asking them to do, when you do not even take care of your own business? The people who have the ability to pay will if they can trust you, and any responsible business adult will view you as not trustworthy because of this.