Your story is a nice summary of, I think, what most enterpreneurs have gone through. Not the specifics, but the mental process.
I saw it when I went through the same argument: Either follow the
conventional and traditional pathway, working for someone, or strike
out on your own.
From as far back as the cave people, it`s always been the same. In
America, back during the pioneer days, it was so common it became part
of our history. A small group of people start a settlement, it grows,
gets crowded and someone says, "I`m leaving. I`m starting my own
Throughout time, the others have said, "Oh you`re a fool. You`re
missing the boat. Life here is comfortable, we`re just getting to where
we can sleep at night. Don`t be silly, don`t be foolish, don`t take
risks, don`t waste your time. Stay here with us!"
Ultimately it`s just that: "Don`t be different! That scares us. Be just
like us, so you won`t be scary, weird, and......different."
At 26, here in the US, you`re very young. You`re not running out of
time, but just starting your life as a grown adult. The only way you`re
running out of time is when you face "the expected, common way of doing
things." I do understand that in India, family is far more important
than here in the States. And so there`s a lot more pressure on you.
But...pressure is part of being an entrepreneur.
It always comes down to the choice between two forks in the road of
life: Be creative, or follow directions. Go into the unknown, or choose
a life of security and "the known."
What`s really interesting to me, is that in today`s world EVERYthing is
the unknown! With the increasing collapse of business ethics, the
increasing trend toward calling the costs of doing business the "same
as" profits, nobody is "safe."
All those people who thought they had it made, living the traditional
life, buying a house, getting married, raising kids, and working until
age 65----so many of them are suddenly discovering that when you put
your life in the hands of someone else, you become a dependent.
That`s why we have so many people stopping by SuN, desperately looking
for a way to start a business, but having no idea where to start.
They`ve grown up as dependents, waiting for someone else to tell them
what to do. And so they`ve never developed the *skill* of making
decisions, using their imagination, and taking control of their own
On the other hand, because people who DO live for their own decisions
have spent their whole life being told they`re wrong, missing the
boat, stupid, or even insane, SuN has become a gathering place. It`s a
for all those countless people who`ve, until now, had little or no
It turns out they`re NOT alone.