I dunno, the older I get the less I agree that these kinds of
situations are based on fear of failure. More often than people would
like to believe, two other factors come into play:
- Wanting things to stay the same -- people get used to how things
are, their habits and routines. They know that if they start a
business, it`ll involve risks, work, time problems, scheduling
problems, running around, decisions, worry, and everything else. It`s
very different from what they have, and they prefer their routines.
- Excitement & Adventure -- many people believe that life is
supposed to be a never-ending roller-coaster ride of awe, amazement,
surprise, and wonder. They come up with an idea, and for a few days
it`s just that excitement. Then, living with it, they "feel" it gets
Having spent a career on stage as a musician and entertainer, one of
the hardest lessons I had to learn right up front was that what the
audience perceives as new, interesting, exciting, and amazing is
usually planned right down to the second by the entertainers.
Watch a comedian and you`ll see them deliver exactly the same line,
exactly the same way, with exactly the same pauses and timing night
after night. They may experiment with some new lines, but for their
regular routines, it`s all planned perfectly.
But as audience members, we see entertainers once or perhaps several
times over a spread-out period of time. We forget that those
entertainers spend a lot of effort to make it look as if everything is
spontaneous, easy as pie, and just happened to occur to them at the
So we come up with an idea and it`s fascinating! What a great idea!
What a great adventure! It`s new, different, and a way out of the rut
of routine life. We work like crazy on it for a day or two, gradually
getting deeper into the inner workings.
Suddenly, it`s not "new" anymore. It hasn`t even happened yet, but we
"feel" it`s so familiar, it`s now boring. We`ve lept ahead months and
years, foreseeing all the details, worked out all the glitches, and
solved all the problems. Going even farther into the future, we feel
ourselves into being bored, tired of it all, and wanting something
And yet, we haven`t even take the first step in the real world. It`s
that need for never-ending excitement that keeps many people from ever
staying focused on the inner-workings, the boring details, and the
grunt-work of trial-and-error.
Not much different, really, from people who fall in and out of love
every six months or so. It`s not an adrenaline rush of "new" anymore,
so therefore (they feel), it must be the wrong relationship.