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mutt

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Nov 26, 2006 7:54 PM ET    Quote  Report Abuse
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Well according to Joy there is not much to say except, that this is not then end of the story.

It takes two baby..... to keep warm when laying down on a cold wintery night. It takes two to discuss the stars and the moon that shine at night, it takes two  to fight and one to I am sorry, and two to say we are in this for the big long hall. 

What I am saying is stand tall and work this out the two of you for the absolute best for all, the wife yourself and the kids. You can make IT,be strong but always remember your creator because, he is the reason why you create new ideas.

mutt2006-11-26 19:54:55
bmwsmity

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Nov 27, 2006 9:44 AM ET    Quote  Report Abuse
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Update:

So I decided to become a Mona Vie distributor this weekend.  I had talked to my wife about it a little bit, as she has a basic understanding of Network Marketing because of experiences with Pampered Chef and Mary Kay.  She was cool with me looking into it, and it is a great opportunity, so I am running with it.

The funny thing is, my wife is really getting into the whole idea.  She is watching videos about it with me, she got on their website to check it out herself, she`s been reading about the product, and helping find ways to build things.  It is so great to have her into it with me!!!

Now, I am still continuing my lighting business...I just wanted to diversify my income streams.  But I think the difference between the lighting biz and Mona Vie is my wife`s ability to understand it.

You have to realize, my wife does NOT get into business at all.  It is way boring to her, and no matter how much I try to get her involved and include her, she has NO interest.  I think this is because with the lighting biz she just doesn`t understand how she can directly help, and when things aren`t doing well with it, she feels frustrated that she doesn`t know how to help me.

The Mona Vie business, however, is easy for her to catch on to because she is already familiar with the business model, which is inherently easy to understand already.  Simply buy product, use it, and recommend it to as many people as possible, then collect money on sales generated by your efforts.  Simple.  She is also in the health-care field, so I think she feels she has something to contribute to the Mona Vie business because it is a wellness beverage.

So, to wrap things up, I think the problem all along was mostly my wife not understanding how she can contribute, which led to her being frustrated.  With the new business, she feels she has something to offer..she can use it everyday..and it is much more affordable than landscape lighting so she can get more people SHE knows into it.

So to all those who advised me to stick it out, thank you....I would never have left, and I was mostly looking for ways to get her mindset more aligned with my own.  I believe now I am on track to do just that.

Thanks!




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Rich

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Nov 27, 2006 12:00 PM ET    Quote  Report Abuse
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this is PHENOMENAL news.

it sounds like this could end up being a unifying experience versus the opposite.

one word of caution - make sure that the focus is on success but that no matter what the end result is, you two stick together and act like a team.

rich


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rossb

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Nov 27, 2006 1:32 PM ET    Quote  Report Abuse
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bmwsmity -

That`s great to hear!  Thanks for reporting back!

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onlineeater

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Nov 27, 2006 2:15 PM ET    Quote  Report Abuse
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Great news. Good luck to you.

John


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RegularJoe

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Mar 19, 2007 8:42 AM ET    Quote  Report Abuse
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I am about to turn 31 years old, and I made a decision that I need to evaluate some things about my business before I spend more time than I need to doing the wrong thing. Most importantly, I realized that my company is my "job" and not my "business". I have to be there almost 75% of the time, and that was not my intention. I realized that I want a much larger scale of success. Not necessarily all financial, but reaching a state of financial freedom through creative business ideas, “passive income” generating investments, or LEVERAGE as the great entrepreneurs seem to call it. I decided to start educating myself more on money and business, and less on how to install irrigation. The results have floored me. Over the last six months (winter is really slow) I have read several books that have totally changed my viewpoint on life itself, both in business, and in my personal life. I have recommended these books to every single person in my life that I care for, because of the impact they have had on me. My wife has also started these books, and has totally changed her views of the world, and the way things will actually be for our generation. The list of books for your reference is:

How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie (Author)
Rich Dad Poor Dad Robert T. Kiyosaki (Author)
Why We Want You to be Rich: Two Men - One Message by Donald J. Trump (Author), Robert T. Kiyosaki (Author)
Seven Secrets of Great Entrepreneurial Masters: The GEM Power Formula For Lifelong Success by Allen E. Fishman (Author)
Guerrilla Marketing: Secrets for Making Big Profits from Your Small Business by Jay Conrad Levinson (Author)

I took no salary all year from my Business, as my wife has taken on the financial responsibility of our normal lives so that I might find us a better life one day through business ventures down the road. We recently made the decision to take our future into our own hands, and use all incomes from the business ventures we have to pursue more business ventures on a much larger scale. We know that the luxuries all of our friends are enjoying now, are not an option for us until we get some passive income coming in from investments. The plan has shifted, and now any income generated by the company will be invested in some way, be it real estate, IRAs, or other Business ventures that have a low start up, and/or high profitability. I will pay my daughter to read these books as well when she is old enough to understand, as I truely believe that if I would have read them when I was 17 or 18, I would have made different choices on a large scale, and I would definately be better off now than I am. Just my $0.02

benplanet

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Apr 23, 2007 2:26 PM ET    Quote  Report Abuse
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. . .

I don`t know if this helps, but really... My wife holds such an important level in my life. I couldn`t imagine being without here. I couldn`t be an entrepreneur without her because she is part of the business plan. Have you seen the movie "Barbershop"? There is some hints to entrepreneurship in there. The main character fights so hard to start a new, fresh, business that he forgets all of the treasures he currently holds... hmmm. Deciding to get a job is easy. McDonald`s hires on a daily basis. Deciding to open your own business takes weeks of preplanning and may never bring profit. It`s a tough sell, no matter how you package it.


Totally agree, very well put iouone! 
benplanet

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Apr 23, 2007 2:32 PM ET    Quote  Report Abuse
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I love how people in this community share extremely personal matters such as this! you gotta love it! Long live the SuN ~
Rich

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Apr 29, 2007 11:57 AM ET    Quote  Report Abuse
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Update:

So I decided to become a Mona Vie distributor this weekend.  I had talked to my wife about it a little bit, as she has a basic understanding of Network Marketing because of experiences with Pampered Chef and Mary Kay.  She was cool with me looking into it, and it is a great opportunity, so I am running with it.


so???? how`s it coming along? any take-aways? good support still from your wife? please share an update!

rich


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