I saw your post and had to first say how sorry I am to hear your story. It`s one I`ve heard all too often from small business owners who attend my workshops. And it drives me NUTS!
Although I`m not necessarily one of the providers you`re looking for (I`m a Practical Marketing Expert specializing in helping you take the stress, struggle and confusions out of growing your small business...And I regularly help my clients get the Website they need by acting as marketing director.), I thought I might be able to help you out with a few resources...
1) I`ve used a couple of different VA services over the years. My primary one is Erin Blaskie and her team at www.bsetc.ca however last I checked they weren`t taking on any new clients. Recently I`ve started using a new VA, Chantal Livingstone, for one of my clients, and she`s been doing a fine job building a blog site. You can find her at www.keyadministration.com.
2) I regularly speak to entrepreneurs on the subject of Websites. And because of all these awful stories, I`ve written a number of articles on Websites (you can find many of them at http://www.success-stream.com/resources.htm) and also published The Small Business Website Bible, a totally non-technical guide to getting a money-making Website without spending a fortune (http://www.smallbusinesswebsitebible.com).
3) Also on my resources page, you can look inside my rolodex to find a list of services and providers I know and recommend. Hope this helps!
Best of luck!!
Practical Marketing Expert
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