One of the biggest, and perhaps most serious problems facing an
entrepreneur is that they`re usually sort of like Major Tom, out there
in the void, all alone, feeling as if the tether has snapped and
there`s no way back. And yes, it IS common!
Some people have a team or a really excellent support system. Usually
that support comes from someone who`s sharing the burden and is
directly, personally involved in the business startup. But "usually,"
most entrepreneurs are alone.
Even if they have a really wonderful spouse or "significant other,"
it`s because that other person isn`t directly involved in a hands-on
way with the business that the entrepreneur still feels alone. I know
it was difficult when I`d come to someone with a problem, only to hear,
"Well, I have faith in you! You`ll work it out."
Fine, except that didn`t help me work out the problem! :-D
From a psychological perspective, the entrepreneur finds him/herself at
a fundamental crossroads of validation. It`s not approval---that`s a
one-time thing we usually get as children. Validation is a judgement on
the rationality or insanity of the way our mind is working.
Technically, it`s an epistemological crisis. Epistemology is basically
the question of how you know what you know.
An identity crisis is where you ask, "Who the hell am I, what am I doing here, and what if I`m not as great as I think I am?"
An epistemological crisis is where you ask, "What if everything I think
I know is wrong? How would I know? Suppose what I believe is all a
delusion? How can I know for sure...be certain that I`m right?"
To resolve this type of crisis we need some sort of validation. We need
evidence and proof that our thought process concurs with reality.
Ironically, this type of outside consensus is exactly NOT what`s needed
in an identity crisis. There, a person must put a boundary around their
personal self, and if they can`t, they usually need a professionally
objective assistant along the lines of a psychologist.
The successful trip/client demonstrates objective validation that your
business idea, business thinking, and business logic are correct.
They`re in accordance with reality. On the other hand, it sounds as
though the value you`re placing on the "go/no-go" process hasn`t yet
In other words, we "can" build an electric car, but if we do, how "valuable" is the result of that process?
Only you can really assign the value to yourself and your family of
continuing on with the business. I`m suggesting that at the foundation
of all values will first be survival, then health, then enjoyment of