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CraigL

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Dec 04, 2006 5:33 PM ET Quote Report Abuse

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Y`know, this brings up an important point, the idea of what does it mean to be a hypocrite. What`s the distinction between someone who pretends to have values they don`t actually believe, versus someone who has those values but life has prevented them for exercising the values?

It`s "pretense," and that`s a fundamental concept. We can pretend to ourselves just as we can pretend to the outside world. To pretend means to simulate reality. The simulation can be for a real and productive purpose, as when we try to figure out best and worst case scenarios. But it can also be delusional, or for the purpose of avoiding reality.

What better way to offer practical and real advice to people than to have experienced both the way it works AND the way it fails? Is being burnt out on a business a result of being disillusioned? No, I don`t think so.

There`s a reason we fail in things. It`s as important to know what will not work, as to know what will work. A funny line I heard once was, "Isn`t it odd how you always find what you`re looking for in the last place you look?" :-D

It was a confusion of the original, "...in the last place you`d expect to find it." But the confusion was instructive. Of course you`ll find it in the last place you looked, because having found it, there`s no further necessity to look for what was missing.

On the other hand, "expectation" is also a fundamental concept. Too many people believe they`ll find happiness where they "expect" to find it. That`s fine, but what if they repeatedly fail? What if they do NOT find happiness where they expect it to be? Instead of focusing on the repeating failure, the failures are designed to get those people re-thinking their expectations.

Burnout is most often a result of falling into a rut...habitual repetition. It`s a result of having unachievable goals, and continually failing at everyday tasks, without often succeeding. Network administrators fall victim to burnout quickly because no matter how brilliant they are, the network always and repeatedly fails due to its complexity.

"Doctah...doctah...it hoits when I do dis!"

"Vell, den don` do dat!" :-)

If you don`t like what you`re doing on a daily basis, stop doing it. In many cases, the "it" is the expectation--the goal of reaching a final place that no longer changes. But all things in life change!

For the network admin who believes they`ll have accomplished their work when the network no longer fails, they`ll end up burnt out. But for the admin who`s expectation is to stay abreast of network failures, and get the system back into smooth condition in a timely fashion, they include the expectation of ongoing problems.

What you expect will determine your happiness, your frustrations, your burnout point, and many other emotional aspects of life. The important thing, as people have said throughout history, is to "keep your chin up," keep your sense of humor, and remember that the worst that can happen is you die. :-)

MomentuM7

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Dec 18, 2006 12:11 PM ET Quote Report Abuse

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I agree with CraigL regarding the original post

I`ve done a lot of analysis of the term "passion," and how it differs from "love." Without the details, "passion" is an abstraction we hold as a high value. "Love" is the high value we hold for a tangible object or person.

We can love a person, thing, or group. But we`re passionate about ideas.

I wonder then, reading the above, what was the core *idea*[/quote]

1. Invest at least 15 minutes a day dreaming without distraction

2. Create a dream book with pictures quotes, fabric, and even smells that you want in your future. If you lose sight of your dreams and do nothing to nurture them constantly they will be stolen from you.

3. Visit your dreams and learn about them in depth. You should know more about your dream at the time of purchase than the expert selling it to you.

4. Goals are dreams with dates on them. Avoid getting dreams and goals confused. Furthermore, avoid setting goals before cultivating a rich and vivid dream.

5. Read success stories of those who own your dreams and who have done so by succeeding in your field.

6. Share your dreams with others who have the same dreams. In order to do this you must go through those who do not share your dream. In order to do that you must be sharing your dreams with those who will listen. If you consistently do the above 5 suggestions then this suggestion will occur automatically.

7. Dream, struggle, and victory is the path that we must take. I am confident that you will have victory because you had a dream. It is possible that you lost sight of your dream and thus lost sight of your victory. Study the "temperaments" and how you can leverage that information to excellerate your dreams. Sometimes what we don`t want motivates us more than what we do want. Lastly, leveraging the "pain and pleasure principal" may work for you as a dream of you do not want in your future.

Bonus:

"the past is the present to our future"

---The windshield is larger than the rear view mirror because we should be looking at where we are going more than where we have came from.

I believe in you^.-

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