Ah....and so here we come to the crux of the problem. :-) How to ovecome fear, anxiety, stress, panic, and despondency!
You were maybe thinking you could go to an Authority and they would
instantly show you what you were doing wrong, then how to fix it. I can
certainly relate to that!
One of the best analogies I`ve come up with, if I do say so myself, is "business as a fishing experience."
We routinely go fishing to the same lake, two days in a row. One day we
catch fish, the other day, nothing whatsoever. Or, we go fishing at
those lakes later in the year, and catch nothing. You should HEAR the
stories people fishing with us come up with, as well as our reasons for
"How come the fish aren`t biting?"
LOL! It`s amazing! And believe me, there are people who "sound like"
the most incredible fishing professionals ever to grace our presence!
They tell us that the barometric pressure over Greenland is causing a
push in the air across the Midwest, leading to a vibrancy in the water
which the fish don`t like. So they hide in the middle of the lake, and
aren`t eating on alternate Sundays.
The fact remains that sometimes things work; sometimes they don`t.
It`s an excellent process to cross-check your thinking and actions with
an objective, learned other person. That gives you a sort of
reality-check. But it`s not a mentor, only someone who`s *analysis* you
can count on to be objective.
The most difficult thing about being an entrepreneur is that there
usually isn`t any safety net. It`s all or nothing, boom or bust. We`re
experiencing that ourselves, with no money in the bank, nothing as
backup, everything committed to the business, and no idea where our
next sale will come from.
But what would you rather be doing? Would you rather get a job that
pays you $60K per year, instantly fixes all your woes and
worries......today.....and then leaves you in a rut, working for
someone else for the rest of your life? :-)
There`s nothing worse in life than looking back at what might have
been. Especially if you were involved at the startup phase, then backed
out due to short-term worries. Financial problems are often short-term,
in this context. But then when you fix them, you end up looking
backward for years, wondering what would have happened if only you`d
"stuck it out." Y`know?
Another way to say it is "the wildcard theory." When you work as an
employee, you know exactly what you`ll earn each week, each month, each
year. You`re told what will happen, and your life is nicely organized,
planned, and stable. Until you get laid off, outsourced, or retired.
But running a business gives you a "wildcard." ANYthing can happen! In
one, ten-minute conversation, you can get an order that will change
your life. You can`t predict where you`ll end up, what will happen each
week, or anything else. That means chaos!
However, the nice thing about chaos is that it takes small energy to
form organization. Think about it. If you have a highly organized wall
and you want to turn it into a garden, you first have to expend huge
effort to tear down the wall, reduce it to rubble (chaos), then cart it
But suppose you already have a blown-up wall, already in chaos? It
takes much less effort to cart it away and organize the garden. So too,
when your life is in chaos, 1 single thing can instantly transform it
into a pattern, like crystals precipitating out of a super-saturated
liquid. That`s the wildcard.
When you have a regular job, you already have a lot of organization,
but it`s organized toward someone else`s dream, goals, and passion. All
that would have to be taken down first, before you can reorganize your
life toward your own passions and direction.