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UnwantedNews:

Congrats on taking a stand to change, take charge, go "hunting"!  Interesting about your screen name and profile.  Why "UnwantedNews"?  Is that how you view your life? 

A psychological phenomenon:  Act how you want to feel and the feelings will follow.  I don`t know what changes you have started to make, but may I suggest as a starting point changing your screen name?  Start by surrounding yourself with positive messages, images and influences.  Thoughts are things.  Before something exists in your life, it was/is a thought. 

A short story as heard from Zig Ziglar:  (I love this analogy)

A farmer entered his mule in the Kentucky Derby.  All the other owners laughed at him. One finally came up to the farmer and asked "You really don`t expect your mule to win, do you?"  The farmer replied "Nope, but I thought the association would do him a world of good."  

 

LOL! Excellent story, BurninGreen!

"If you want to be rich, hang out with rich people." Same principle applies. If you want to be an employee all your life, hang out with worker drones.

But if you want to take charge of your own destiny, you first have to really come to terms with it being YOUR destiny! Not someone else`s destiny.

Following a major trauma, we all of us have only a few ways to deal with the aftermath. One that many people seem to love, is to spend the rest of their lives going back to re-hash what happened. They get all into the details of what happened, how it messed them up, and how scared they were.

The net result is arrested development. They spend the rest of their lives locked into the timeframe of the trauma, while the rest of the world moves onward.

The much better way is to examine the trauma, extract all the principles and lessons, then understand that you`re a changed person. You mark the moment and say, "This is the first day of the rest of my life." You absorb and integrate what happened into your new "self," and adjust to a different perception of reality based on the trauma.

A third way, based on the "moving on" nonsense of today`s pop-culture psychologists, is simply denial. You ignore totally what happened, ignore the changes to your life, ignore any lessons or reasoning, wipe out the event totally, and push forward as though nothing whatsoever took place. That`s a sure-fire plan for mental instability.