I believe you may ammend the original application. If you are not happy with the attorney you are working with, let her know your concerns and give her the opportunity to make it right, or transfer elsewhere.
There is certainly nothing wrong with you wanting free legal advice from your attorney. There is also nothing wrong with your attorney wanting to earn a living by selling you her time. Having you and her [or another attorney] agree about who will be paying for the answers to your questions should hopefully help resolve that.
I would be very careful about anybody discussing any legal problems on line. In the event of future ligitation [though unlikely], your opponents now know your thoughts and intentions about your intellectual property and could use those against you.
I certainly understand that clients don`t want to be "nickeled and dimed" to death. Nobody does. The other side of that is that attorneys don`t want the endless "just one quick free question" interruptions that keep us from doing the work that other clients actually do pay for. Like most things, there is a balance there and things work when neither party is going too far.
Ultimately, there is no free advice or free anything. Either the client pays or the attorney pays by going unpaid.
Hello CampSteve. As you now may know, the best action for getting a Design Patent is to WAIT until you actually have the final product that you will take to market. Then use this for the design. It will save you dollars.
And, yes I would stop your attorney from continuing with your now changed design patent.