Abandon hope all ye who enter here
My industry is ultra "High Schooly". The pretty and popular girls are worshipped like gods - even though they may lack true talent or personality. Those who are smart but not so "pretty" are tossed under the bus.
I hated high school politics 20 years ago and I still hate it today. My mother always told me I needed to learn to "flirt" - I still can`t bring myself to stoop that low - LOL! I operate under the notion that I`d rather be respected than popular. I may not get my scrapbook pages published in a magazine or win "Scrapbooker of the Year" (an actual contest in which the winner gets 15 minutes of fame) but dang it, if you you want to know about the business side of the scrapbook industry, I`m your girl!
Aging is mandatory... maturing is optional...
I loved it when Kirsty Alley won an Emmy years ago and she held it up and said, "This is for all the girls who were mean to me in High School!" I think those of us who were "toughened up" by high school politics actually do better in life.
I had a hard time skipping my 20 year reunion a few years ago. It took me months to decide to NOT go. It was bizarre that I had such a hard time making up my mind. But, in the end, I decided that, "I hated most of these people 20 years ago, why should I go pretend I like them now?" It was a very liberating (and mature) realization! Nobody cared that I wasn`t there and I wasn`t somehow diminished personally by not showing up.
And, to add insult to injury to my HS years - my dad was our Vice Principal in charge of discipline... I walked the halls in FEAR every day of my life.
I know my experiences in High School have given me a tough skin and an "I couldn`t care less what people think about me" attitude. That takes you far in business (as long as you don`t abuse people with that attitude). I run across so many people in my business who can`t handle anything but happy thoughts and absolute adoration of ANYTHING they do. They ask your opinion but really don`t want it. If you disagree with the opinion of the "popular girls", you`re going to get yourself dumped in the garbage can. It makes me nuts because the "popular girls" make some pretty dumb moves that cost them tons of money but they won`t listen to anyone but their minions who are "paid" to agree with them. I don`t have the desire to be popular, just successful!
So, for me, as hard as High School was, it really made me the tough chick in the end and for that, I will be eternally grateful!