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Can friendships that have gone the wrong way, be manifested to become positive ones?? Any input would be most appreciated it, thanks everyone.

Hi,

This is a slightly tricky one, because if you are affirming or intending great, giving, friendly (for example) people around you and people are disappearing then that is part of the plan of bringing new people like that into your life.

But, I have manifested positive friendships that have gone bad. I believe I lost them in the first place, through unintentionally thinking negatively occasionally about them privately. Maybe something they`ve done, or the way they`ve behaved (even though I love them!) Or got concerned that they may not ring, or may not email and they have not.

The way I got friendships back (and sometimes more than once!) is by going out and having fun. I found an interesting site theofficiallawofattraction.com where get an insight about The Law Of Attraction.

I hope that helps. But if a friendship isn`t serving you, if your energies don`t match, then the Universe won`t put you together. In that case, it might be best to just let it go. I hope this makes sense!

Joy and love

What does "manifest" mean?

manifest is a kind of destiny - kind of like when a group of pilgrims think they own an entire continent.

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Oh. I thought it was like a packing slip....or bill of lading.

Actually, to manifest something means to bring it into being.  A relationship which has gone bad can only be pre-existing, so it cannot be "manifested".  It can, however, be reinvented.

(As an aside, and to address the original query) It seems to me that the ultimate answer to the question "Can a relationship that has gone bad be healed?" lies in the answers to other questions:

"What happened to make us feel so bad about each other?"
I.  "Was it my fault?"
    A.  "Am I willing to do what it takes to make amends?"
    B.  "Have I done everything I can do to make amends?"
II. "What did this person do to upset me?"
    A.  "Has this person tried to make amends with me?"
    B.  "Can I trust this person?"
    C.  "Can I accept the overtures this person has made toward peace, or do I need more (sincerity, proof, time, etc.)?"

Obviously, endless questions could be posed here, according and specific to circumstance.  In the final analysis, an honest evaluation of each participant`s heart, beliefs, perceptions and motivations will have to take place (Dear CraigL, please forgive the passive voice--heehee!) in order to put all possible questions to rest.

[One can go a long way toward answering the previously-asked questions by first considering these: How are my communication skills?  Do I listen with my eyes and heart as well as my ears?  When I speak, do I weigh my words and tone to accurately convey my ultimate intent?  I bring these considerations to light not to seem accusatory, but to provide context for a personal observation: a great many of the verbal slights we perceive are due to unfortunate misunderstandings (except the ones that result from road rage, haha!).  I understand that there are more varieties of slight than just the verbal.  However, honest, effective communication (which includes both sincere conveyance of intent and open receptiveness) is always the first step on the path to forgiveness and reunion, no matter what the root circumstances of the original hurt may have been.]

Whoa--I was lecturing, wasn`t I?  Sorry for that...I only hoped to help!



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"Ask not, know not." --Me

You have the right idea  Craig .

A manifest is a piece of paper or papers. When I was working in the freight industry the drivers would each have their own manifest before leaving in the morning. This was way before the electronic signatures used together by the courier companies.  Each manifest had the drivers name on top, in/out date and times.  When the consignee got their package they signed the manifest. At the end of the day the driver turned in the manifest to operations and the signatures were updated to the data base.  

There are many usages for the word "manifest".  It can be a noun, verb, or adjective.  The usage that Bryant was attempting to "manifest" (pardon the pun; usage here= "to make clear") was that of the verb form which refers to revealing something or calling something into being.

http://www.wordreference.com/definition/manifest



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"Ask not, know not." --Me

I love words and understanding them--where they came from, what they mean, how they work, and why people made them up.

When you reach down into the nitty-gritty of "Manifest," it`s essential concept is to "make clearly visible."

I tend to hold that 1 word has 1 basic meaning. Why have two words that mean exactly the same thing? In VERY RARE instances this might happen, where a word was brought into the English language at nearly the same time, from two entirely different other languages. But it`s really unusual.

Although "clearly visible" may tend to be literal, it also has its poetic and metaphorical context. And that`s why some words "appear to have" more than one meaning.

Manifest destiny boils down to a pre-ordained, clear and obvious destiny. A trucking manifest lists on a clear and obvious piece of paper, making visible all the items in that truck. To manifest gold out of thin air means to make nothing-ness visible in the form of something---gold. In that case, the proper word would be "materialize."

Too often in today`s world, people gloss through words, having a vague feeling of what they might point to (not what they mean). They`ve bought into the modern linguistics, political correctness, and New Age "reality therapy." They`ve fallen into a belief that words create reality.

"How do I fix a relationship that`s gone bad" is both passive, and controlling. Ergo, the phrase is a symptom of passive-aggressive behavior.

"Why did a relationship go bad," is a symptom of passive reaction to life, being blameless, and often a harbinger of narcissism. Not always, but many times.

A friendship relationship has a value or it doesn`t. Because a relationship means more than one person, each person involved must be able to "manifest" the value of that relationship. Usually, when the friendship collapses it`s because what one person valued, the other person felt was immaterial. So they dematerialized it.

:-)

CraigL said:
" I tend to hold that 1 word has 1 basic meaning. Why have two words that mean exactly the same thing? In VERY RARE instances this might happen, where a word was brought into the English language at nearly the same time, from two entirely different other languages. But it`s really unusual."

I read in your bio that you are a writer--my curiosity is piqued as to why you would make such an assertion.  There are entire books, called thesauruses (or thesauri; there is some debate--ref. http://www.lexmasterclass.com/people/Publications/2003-K-Bei jing-thes4NLP.pdf)
which are devoted entirely to grouping words according to the similiarity of their meanings.  There is even a word for the phenomenon: synonym.

Additionally, it is frequently the case that the same word has two or more very different meanings.  Witness: "I had to run to the store because I had a run in my stocking."

As you can probably tell, we share a love of words!


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